Is anxiety controlling your life?

Is anxiety normal?

Anxiety is a normal part of life right? Isn’t that what we hear time and time again? Everyone suffers with it… those butterflies in your stomach are normal… just get on with it…  Sound familiar? To a certain degree, yes anxiety is a normal part of life. Most people will feel a degree of it when starting a new job, a new school, a new relationship, any change in life. Anxiety is our body’s response to new and stressful situations and when managed positively it can even help us. Keep reading to find out about how to help and overcome anxiety when it gets beyond this.

The key is in how much of a degree you feel that anxiety.

The  debilitating anxiety which leaves your whole self in knots, which can lead to panic, worry, depression, problems sleeping, inability to be or stay calm, which can render you nauseous, sweating, negative thinking, unable to face the world or even a so called normal day, this is the anxiety which must be overcome. This is the anxiety which can leave a person unable to function and thus put lives on hold. This is the anxiety which must be stopped in its tracks.

Why do we need help to overcome anxiety?

Sixteen million people in the UK, are estimated, at any one time to be experiencing one or more forms of mental illness. Staggeringly, that is almost a quarter of the UK’s total population. The most common form is that of anxiety which affects around 16% of the population at any one time. One source says that one in ten children now have a diagnosable mental health condition.

How has it come to this? Surely childhood should be a time of being carefree and having fun? It’s staggering. 75% of young people who are suffering with mental health issues are not being helped. Yet if not treated in children, the issues do not do away. It has even  been found that there has been a rise in the waiting time for children to receive any treatment. They can wait as long as a decade to receive the help they need and then the most common form of help is medication. Sadly, children with depression and anxiety are often the ones the most likely to be left undiagnosed. To me this shouts how important it is that there is help to overcome anxiety.

Up to 300,000 people lose their jobs each year linked to mental health problems. Children stay off school as they just can’t face it. Often, people do not receive the necessary help and support, employers may not know what support is needed, schools (due to funding) don’t have enough counselling staff to help every child who needs help.

Are you Living life to the fullest?

People suffering from anxiety will not be living the fullest lives they can. It will  be deemed necessary to do things to avoid that anxiety. Avoiding confrontation may be one way yet this can lead to problems of its own as bottling things up inside can cause other issues. Not putting yourself forward for opportunities may be another thing tried – if you stay safe all will be ok right? Again, this can have its own problems. Cancel social arrangements at the last minute because it feels too much, too scary to go out with a group of people which may include some you don’t know. Becoming hermit like may have its advantages but again can lead to problems of its own. I have done all these things in my life so I know the pros and cons to each.

Fear of fear

What about the fear of the anxiety itself? We can’t deal with that so easily – we can’t hide from that. Leading a minimal life may minimise levels of anxiety but how do we stop being worried about the anxiety coming back? Can we stop triggers for this?

 Help to overcome anxiety.

There are many options these days out there for help with mind related issues. Brain Working Recursive Therapy (BWRT®) is a fantastic, relatively new therapy which can help you blast your anxiety down to the levels it should be. You don’t have to worry about whether you can or can’t get to a state of hypnosis as it is not hypnotherapy – you stay awake and in control the whole time. It is a logical, scientific method where, with the practitioner’s help,  you replace the negative feeling with your preferred way of feeling. Our brains default to that fight, flight or freeze mode when faced with perceived dangers. Sometimes this is helpful and sometimes the opposite. BWRT® can help balance this so you are using your preferred feelings and not in that state of fight, flight or freeze unless needed.

To find out more about BWRT® go to https://www.bwrt-dorset.co.uk/services/  or  https://www.bwrt.org/pages/about-us . To book an informal discussion to see if it can help you please go to https://www.bwrt-dorset.co.uk/contact/